11.09.2007

oooohhh that's right, i am married

it may sound cheese and mushy but i'm married to my best friend. we met in middle school, stayed friends over the years and have now been married 8.5 years. easy enough. how could i forget that, right? well, i did and another issue has come up in which i said i would never let this happen when i had kids.

it seems this list (of things i would not do as a parent) continues to grow at a pretty alarming rate. it's actually quite embarrassing. i've never eaten so much humble pie in my entire life as i have in the past 2 years. i guess it comes with the territory sort of like poop under the fingernails.

"i will never tell people they'll understand when they have kids."
"i will never have conversations involving nothing but poop diapers."
"i will never let my child sleep in my bed."

the list could go on but for the purposes of this post i will end it with:

"i will never forget that i'm married".

for the most part this has not been an issue. but since starting this second job, i haven't been around the house much. and the time i have, i'm usually thinking about calli and wanting to see her and hold her and kiss her and... you get it. so, this issue became painfully obvious when my wife had to point out to me how i mentioned i was sad about my daughter leaving for the weekend but not her.

if you look to the left i have a sidebar feature that allows me to update what i'm doing at any moment-anywhere-anytime through twitter. (i'm still not sure what the point of this is other than because i can but that's neither here nor there.) i updated this this morning, mentioning how i was sad about my daughter leaving and as you can see i had to go back and include my wife in a seperate update. that was more or less for her benefit and it gave me a good laugh but it did make me think for a moment.

i realized that as of late i had been unconsciously giving all my attention to my daughter. i think it's easier to assume my wife knows how i feel and my daughter must be shown. this makes sense to me but by no means is it an excuse. i really felt bad. but this does seems to be the case in many relationships. i will however do what i can to see that this doesn't happen again.

mainly because i don't want to deal with all the "what about your wife" emails.

7 comments:

Calli's Mama said...

it was sweet until the last line...

...picture me sticking out my tongue at you.

struglas said...

smells like it might be business time to me. if you know what i mean.

Calli's Mama said...

team building exercise 1999...

Whit said...

It's like that for me too. My wife will be beautiful forever*, the kids will only be sweet for a few years.

*In case she reads this.

Dustin said...

hhmm, Doug the wise.... Good words for me to read, especially since Meg and I are heading into year number 3 as of today.

kimbescz said...

flowers and a two hour massage will help Hill to totally know how you feel about her. oh, and cleaning the house. nothing sexier than a man that can yield a vacuum, a mop and a basket of laundry all at the same time.

Calli's Mama said...

Well said Kim! Here Here!!!